Do you find yourself spending hours on dating sites searching for the perfect match and pondering over the perfect opening line? If you’ve ever tried the typical “Hi, how are you?” approach, you probably know it’s not the most effective way to capture someone’s interest—it’s overly common and frankly, quite dull. So, what’s the key to sparking an engaging conversation on a dating site that makes that special someone take notice? For more innovative strategies and detailed guidance on making black friends, visit our website.
Unconventional Approach
Be original, come up with a phrase that will disarm, astonish, and make you stand out from the flow of boring clichés. You can even start with unrelated topics, for example, pretend you’re conducting a social survey, not looking for a soulmate: “Hi, I’m doing a mini-survey: if you won $5,000, what would you spend it on?” or “I’m curious, if the Internet were turned off, what would you prefer to do?”. Such a start has a better chance of engaging the girl in a conversation, and then it’s up to your charm and wit.
Compliment
Yes, all girls love compliments, but it’s also true that girls don’t like clichés, so “you have such beautiful eyes” sounds more like an insult. Come up with something more unconventional: “I was struck by your beauty and composed a whole poem, but suddenly the power went out, so I’m sending a smiley instead.” You can play on the fine line between praise and provocation: “Are you really that beautiful, or is your friend a professional photographer?”
Conduct an Investigation
The Sherlock Holmes method always comes in handy – pay attention to even the smallest details. Pets nearby, an original piece of jewelry on the hand, an Egyptian landscape in the background, a tattoo, clothes, interior – notice all the nuances in the photo and use them to start a conversation. “I’m planning to go to Egypt, I see you’ve been there, could you suggest a paradise spot?” Or: “I’ve been looking at your tattoo and can’t take my eyes off it – does it have some magical meaning?” Another option: “My friends also gave me a dachshund puppy yesterday – should I prepare for sleepless nights?”
More Creativity
If you’re brave, witty, and prefer a creative approach, you can go all out but with a touch of creativity. “Taxi, champagne, and strawberries are ready, I’m set for the date, when do we meet? P.S. Or do you prefer beer and fish?” It’s important not to cross the line of arrogance, as excessive pushiness always scares people away. Therefore, it’s better to carefully study the profile of the girl you like – if she gives the impression of being bold and free-spirited, she will probably appreciate this approach.
Use Humor
Leave not-too-witty and fresh jokes for friendly gatherings, but a clever joke can help ease the tension of the “first contact.” The main thing is not to overdo it, as it’s easy to come across as a clown. Of course, there’s always a chance you might encounter a very serious girl with a poorly developed sense of humor, but usually, ladies warmly welcome witty and humorous phrases in the first message. Provided they don’t smell of mothballs.
Ask for Help
Girls are naturally compassionate and responsive, so if you pretend to need help, there will surely be those willing to ease your plight. Ask for help choosing a gift for your sister (tip: don’t mention your mom), picking out a suit for a conference, or a dish for a holiday table. If you carefully study the candidate’s profile, you’ll surely see what she’s interested in – ask for help in that area. She understands it (or thinks she does), so she will likely want and be able to help you.
Provoke
Girls love to argue, so even the iciest queen can be “stirred up” with a provocation. For example, the phrase “I think that lipstick color doesn’t suit you” won’t leave any girl indifferent. Especially if a guy dares to comment on the “holy of holies” – fashion and style. The color of the bag, the length of the skirt, the relevance of the trend, etc. – you can use anything, just don’t be rude or offensive. The remark should be made in a soft tone and not get personal. The phrase “you’re fat!” is unlikely to increase your chances of getting to know her.
Present Yourself
When you write to a girl for the first time, remember that the first question she will ask herself is “Who are you?” You can save her time and present yourself in that very first message. You can simply and honestly write: “I’m Sasha, I work in programming, I love cold beer and warm sea. I like blondes with a good sense of humor, maybe you’re just like that?” With girls with an impressive appearance, this approach also works: “I think I’m not the first who wants to meet you today. But I’m the best. Want to check?”
